Ephesians 4:25–32 (ESV)
A New Life
25 Therefore, having put away falsehood,
let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another. 26 Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, 27 and give no opportunity to the devil. 28 Let the thief no longer steal, but rather let him labor,
doing honest work with his own hands, so that he may have something to share with anyone in need. 29 Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. 30
And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. 32 Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one
another, as God in Christ forgave you.
My Dad had a saying “if you always tell the truth, you don’t have to worry about what you said.” There was a lot of wisdom in that statement.
When my mind says to make up an answer, I hear the little voice saying to speak the truth. You really don’t have to worry about what you said. So, “let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor.
I also remember Pastor Albers teaching me an important lesson when going through premarital counseling. “Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.”
I have always tried to live by this, but I vividly remember one of my failures. My wife said something that I couldn’t deal with. I was shocked and would have never though she would have said this. For the first time, I could see big
problems in our marriage. I also misinterpreted today’s verse and decided to not go to bed while angry. I stayed up all night while she slept. The next morning, I knew I had to have a heart to heart talk with her, because I could not
deal with what she had said. I explained it and she said that she did say that, but that was not how it was to be interpreted. She explained herself and I felt so much better. I should have stuck to today’s scripture which is “don’t
let the sun go down” on your anger, not “don’t go to sleep in your anger.” I would have slept good if I had asked her when she said it.
There is a lot of good information
on dealing with anger and bitterness. Instead, be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
I pray: O Lord, help me to not harbor or live in anger
or bitterness, but to live in kindness with all people. Help me to live for Christ, not against Christ. Amen.